2.20b Bonus Results – Sex

Bonus!

The four temperaments in sex

All temperaments can become great lovers! The key to this greatness is understanding each other better, appreciating the strengths and overcoming weaknesses with grace. Remember: love gives!  It helps so much when you understand why your partner acts in a certain why.  Once you know these things, you can cooperate with each other instead of clashing and trying to change the other.

Important Definition – Guardrail: The definition of a guardrail is a rail at the edge of something such as a road or a cliff that prevents vehicles or people from falling off and getting hurt. They are strategically placed for your safety. A personal guardrail is a standard of behavior that becomes a matter of conscience. It’s the non-negotiables in your life, the red lights that say DANGER, STAY OUT. Put these up and adhere to them at all times to ensure that your relationship is safe.

Below you will find more information on how each temperament thinks/acts in the bedroom. Make sure that you take a look a both your and your partner’s main temperaments. 

*** These insights can ensure a great sex life! Study them carefully!

The different temperaments in the bedroom:

 
 

2.17 Test your knowledge

Test your knowledge

Complete and earn 10 points!

Each statement has one correct answer. If you choose the incorrect answer, you have the option to click the “retry arrow”.

2.6 Are they all equal?

Are they all equal?

No temperament is better than another! They are all equally strong and challenged.

Most people will find themselves to be a blend of two or even three temperaments. Unless you are extremely strong in one temperament, your second temperament will play a significant role in your behavior. It might offset some weaknesses or it can intensify them. One temperament will usually be more dominant than another but the ratio could be as close as a 60/40 combination. The intensity of a temperament will determine how much of that temperament traits you display. If your strengths are extremely strong, you are likely to have very strong weaknesses as well. It all comes down to balance.

Temperament combinations will enhance and/or offset strengths and weaknesses.

If you are, for example, an extroverted Ocean combined with an introverted Lake, these two temperaments will offset each other and your extrovert tendencies will be calmed. But when the extroverted Ocean combines with the extroverted Fountain, your volume settings can go way up! Some temperaments complement each other, while others blend and some are quite the opposite. You will find this not only in yourself but also in your partner. We all possess a toolbox of strengths that will help us grow stronger where we are weak, as individuals and as a couple.

Your profile results will tell you what your combinations are. The stronger you are in a temperament, the more you will identify with that specific temperament. Some characteristics might not seem applicable. Not everybody displays all the characteristics of a particular temperament. If you don’t believe it’s true, ask someone you trust if they see that characteristic in you. We often have blind spots in our lives. Things we don’t even realize we do but everyone else is aware of it. Be careful not to get hurt in the process of uncovering blind spots. It’s perfectly normal not to be 100% self-aware. LOFS will give you an opportunity to become an even better version of yourself.

The goal of identifying temperaments isn’t to label you or put you in a box. It helps you understand yourself and your partner better with the purpose of respecting, honoring, accepting and helping each other. Once we are able to pinpoint our strengths and weaknesses, we can live more confidently through our strengths and we can work on our weaknesses together.

2.1 What you will learn in this level

A quick overview of LOFS:

2.7 LOFS Test

2.7 LOFS Test

LOFS TEST – Uncover your temperament!

Both partners will have the opportunity to complete the test.

NB!!! At the end of the test, before you submit, you will see 4 values: A value for Fountain, a value for Lake, a value for Snow and a value for Ocean. Make a note of these values (write it down or make a screenshot) as we will refer back to it periodically!

Here are some questions about the way you think, feel and behave in different situations.  Next to each question is a space for answering either “Yes”, “Sometimes” or “No”.

Answer according to how you generally act or feel in a given situation.

Work quickly and don’t spend too much time overthinking any particular question.  As long as you remember to answer in terms of how you feel or act most of the time.

Try to answer “Yes” or “No” as often as possible.  Mark the “Sometimes” answer only when the answer is definitely somewhere in-between. Make sure that you answer every question and remember that there are no right or wrong answers.  This is not a test of ability or maturity, but simply a pointer to the unique way that you think, feel and act.

PLEASE NOTE: The results of a questionnaire like this are suggestive rather than absolute.  Your mood at the time of answering may influence your responses quite a good deal. That is why it is sometimes useful to ask a close friend to answer it on your behalf.

Great idea: Complete your inventory and make time to go through your answers as well your partner’s answers together. It’s a wonderful ‘getting to know you better’ experience. You might be surprised by each other’s thought processes, different points of view and answers!